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Writing Family Stories

Stories passed from one generation to the next carry the values, culture, and unique mythology of that family. Knowing our family's stories solidifies our sense of belonging. If you have been thinking of collecting family stories for your children and grandchildren, then this workshop is for you.  I will give you ideas for reviving memories and writing and organizing your family story project. Come prepared to do some writing and storytelling.
My favourite workshop to teach is Writing Family Stories.  I love this because the participants have a sense of urgency about their projects.  Their stories are the only link the family may have to their past and they fear the stories will be lost if they don't collect and write them.  They write for future generations who may one day wonder about family traditions.
 
In this workshop we look at some of the following issues:
  • How do I get started?
  • What stories and memories should I choose?
  • Who is my audience?
  • What do I say about scandals and secrets?
  • What has to be true?  What can I make up?
  • What makes a good story?
  • What if family members disagree about what happened?
Participants have many issues in common and are guided to finding the best answers for their own projects.  We write and share and people leave with renewed commitment to their projects.
 
How I Started Working with Family Stories
 
In 1999, my friend Brian Whitman was diagnosed with ALS.  He knew he might have only a year or two left in his life and immediately got to work.  First he read his favourite stories on to cassette tapes for his three grandchildren and those yet to be born.  Then he wrote stories about his grandparents and parents and a few choice stories from his own life:  his childhood in the Canadian prairies, military service in the far north, adventures in the seminary, meeting his lovely wife, and others.  He wanted his grandchildren to know where they came from and some aspects of his personality that only stories can convey.  I helped Brian edit these stories before they went to print.
 
The life of a family is a big, unwieldy thing that can intimidate many writers.  When I started teaching "Writing Family Stories" I showed my classes how Brian selected episodes in his family story that shone light on the larger family as well as being short, readable, and self-contained.  I told them how he addressed the stories to his grandchildren, and how when you imagine your audience, it helps keep you focused and maintain a certain "voice" in your writing.
 
Editing the "grandfather book" with Brian inspired me to write my own family stories (a work in progress), and gave me some insight into the motivations and process of writing family stories.  I had, at the time, 10 nephews and nieces who lived in Jerusalem and spoke little English.  My mother said that the children were starved for family stories.  I began by writing stories for them about the extended family.  Since their father -- my brother Reuven --  was the youngest of my siblings, he had heard few of the stories.  My father died when my brother was eight.
 
Upcoming Workshops
Sunday, October 18, 2009  1:00-5:00 p.m.
Jewish Genealogical Society of Canada - Toronto
Writing Jewish Family Stories and Memoirs Part 1
This workshop was already successfully held.  They are planning to run a repeat of part 1 and a follow-up workshop in April.  For information contact 
program@jgstoronto.ca http://www.jgstoronto.ca.
 
 
Sunday, October 25, 2009   1:00 - 5:00 p.m.
The Jewish Book Fair, Koffler Centre for the Arts, Toronto
Writing Your Jewish Family Stories and Memoirs
Room 123, Gales Pavilion
http://www.kofflerarts.org/Whats-On/Event-Detail/?recordid=99
*Advanced registration required for the workshops, space is limited. Contact Aviva Babins, 416-638-1881 x 4381 / ababins@kofflerarts.org
 
Sunday, November 1, 2009  1:00 - 4:30 p.m.
JAHSENA:  Jewish Archives and Historical Society of Edmonton and Northern Alberta
Writing Jewish Family Stories and Memoirs, Part II
Edmonton JCC
Phone the office at (780) 489-2809 to register.
This is open to the public and will include both people who attended the first session and newcomers.
 
Saturday, November 7, 2009  2:30 - 6:30 p.m.
An open workshop in Vancouver
Writing Memoirs and Family Stories #5
Some participants will have met with Lil previously; some will be attending for the first time.
Please contact Lil if you are interested in attending.
 
Sunday, November 8, 2009  1:00 - 5:00 p.m.
Jewish Museum and Archives of British Columbia
Writing Jewish Family Stories and Memoirs
Seating is limited, contact the Jewish Museum & Archives at (604) 257-5199 to register for this program.
This event is generously supported by:  Catherine Youngren Interior Designers Inc.
 
One of My Family Stories 

I have no direct memory of my grandfather, Reuven Myer (Marcus) Halpern, but many stories are told of him and he told many stories. The following is a story he apparently told my aunt who told my brother who told the whole family one Passover seder.

    Marcus was a revolutionary.  Like Lenin before him and Trotsky and even Stalin, he was exiled to Siberia around the time of the first Russian peasant uprising in 1904-5.

    At the time exiles were sent via the Trans-Siberian railway (started in 1891, finished in 1916) and when the railway ended, they walked.

    In one story we hear that the prisoners - a ragged bunch of revolutionaries, intellectuals, and criminals – had been made to walk a great distance.  They stopped, exhausted and cold, at a village.  A woman came out and asked the prisoners

    "YEST TUT YEVREI?"  The woman said in Russian.

    "YEST TUT YEVREI?"

    Are there any Jews here?

    Marcus was afraid to reply.  Who would admit to being Jewish?  Anti-Semitism was everywhere and he was afraid he would endanger his own life by answering the question.  He didn’t even raise his head.  But the woman persisted, asking again, "YEST TUT YEVREI?"  Are there any Jews here?

    He looked at the source of the voice – a Russian woman with big eyes, and a kind serious face. She wore a thick shawl and was carrying a basket.  It was April, already. Surely the worst of winter was over and spring might arrive soon.

    Marcus nervously stepped forward and said, "DA, YA EVREY."  Yes, I am a Jew.

    The woman uncovered her basket and took out some large pieces of freshly baked matzo.  She said that this night would be the first night of Passover.  She said that for many years her father had baked and given matzo to Jewish prisoners.  When he died, he made her promise that she would continue to do so.

    "Why would you do this?" Marcus asked.

    "My father’s life was saved by a Jew," she said.

 
Publications
 
My story "Chess" was published in Parchment:  The Journal of Contemporary Canadian Jewish Writing, 14,  2005-2006.  This story looks at the game of chess across four generations of my family.  Click here to read it.
 


 

TESTIMONIALS

"I wish you’d come back to Victoria to give the faculty another session. The few hours I got to spend with your were some of the most useful I’ve ever spent on professional development." Lorna Crozier, award-winning poet, professor University of Victoria

The ability to communicate effectively is especially important in my role as an elected official, and I have Lil Blume to thank.  Her communications course has taught me important lessons on how to listen with empathy and communicate non-defensively – skills that are essential whether I am in a boardroom debate, being interviewed by the media, or on the phone with a constituent.  Lil is a dynamic and energetic teacher who delivers with passion."
– Shaun Chen, Trustee (Ward 21, Scarborough-Rouge River), Toronto District School Board.

 

I have had the privilege to attend two different memoir writing workshops given by Lil Blume, the first was a workshop at Har El Synagogue in North Vancouver which was open to all members of the congregation and the second was for the Vancouver Second Generation group (adult children of Holocaust survivors) who have been meeting regularly over many years and doing workshops with Lil Blume. In each case Lil was enthusiastic, interesting, and motivating. In each of these workshops, participants ranged widely in age, writing ability, and experience as writers. Lil demonstrated an inspiring ability to make the workshop relevant for all participants while supporting each of us in such a way that we not only moved forward individually, but learned to honour and appreciate the contributions of others. I cannot recommend Lil highly enough as a teacher and mentor.
-- Helen Mintz, storyteller, performer, translator www.helenmintz.com